This post last updated on February 1st, 2023
Lust is a part of the human experience that can absolutely consume you like a brush fire in the middle of July.
By definition, lust is a passionate desire for something. It’s typically intense, unrestrained, and often uncontrollable. It’s sneaky and goes way beyond our usual association with sex, but it is that and more.
You can’t escape the reality of this sin unless you become a hermit in a cave, far from the reaches of society. But probably not even then!
This is one part of the 7 Deadly Sins series. Here’s where you’ll find all 7 in one place to read now or bookmark for later!
Lust and Sex
Lust is not just sexual desire, it’s sexual desire that has turned itself inside out, distorting what’s natural and making it self-serving. Lust is an entirely selfish sin and usually, includes greed. It’s self-absorbing and destructive against yourself and the other person.
When you’re absorbed with lust, you’ll have very little regard for the consequences. That’s the nature of fire: it consumes and burns everything in its path. And then it moves on, looking for more fuel.
To be clear, the desire for sexual relations itself is not sinful, of course. Without it, you wouldn’t be here to read this post and I wouldn’t be here to write it! But when sexual desire turns inward, it becomes lust, and it’s a sin of the flesh.
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One of the most destructive elements in today’s world that has escalated the sin of sexual lust is the internet. Never before has it been so easy to find and view pornographic material. In fact, the average age when children first see porn is now between 9 and 11 years old.
If you have children, or know someone who does, one resource I can strongly recommend is Covenant Eyes for families (affiliate link). You’re not going to shield your children from things like this, but equipping them is going to require your own preparation and diligence.
Let me say that the abundant availability of pornography is creating a generation of sexual junkies. This is leaving a path of broken lives and wrecked marriages in its wake like nothing we’ve seen before.
Even in the church.
Warnings About Sexual Lust
Remember Joseph? Genesis 39 tells us how Potiphar’s wife tried again and again to seduce him. Of course, any conclusions about her appearance is pure speculation, but I get the impression that she probably wasn’t an ugly woman.
Joseph’s response to her advances is the best example of how we should react to temptation and sexual sin: run. Run like the wind and don’t look back!
You’ll remember that Joseph ended up in prison since apparently Potiphar’s wife didn’t take rejection too well, and I bet she wasn’t used to being told no.
But imagine the consequences Joseph would have faced had he given in to temptation. Death would have been certain but probably not immediate.
If I listed every verse in the Bible that warned us about sexual sin, you’d be here a while reading about 80 of them, so here’s a few key verses on running from lust and sexual sin:
- 1 Corinthians 6:18 – “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
- Colossians 3:5 – “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”
- 2 Timothy 2:22 – “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”
It’s Not Only Sexual
I admit that when we talk about lust, it’s normally tied to sex, and that’s accurate but it can go beyond that.
Some people lust after material things. Others may have a lust for power, fame, knowledge, or drugs and alcohol.
Whatever the case, lust is powerful, and just like most sin, it’s cunning, enticing, and catastrophic.
Consequences of Lust
This should come as no surprise, but sin carries consequences.
King David led Israel into numerous battles. However, one fine Spring, he stayed home and sent his troops to fight. After his afternoon nap, as the story goes, David wandered out to his balcony and noticed a neighbor woman bathing (2 Samuel 11).
David’s sexual desire for the woman, Bathsheba, was so great that even after he discovered she was the wife of one of his best military officers, he still took and seduced her (2 Samuel 11:3-4).
That’s just the beginning. When David found out his escapades had impregnated Bathsheba, he had her husband Uriah, one of his most loyal men (2 Samuel 11:9-11), murdered in the battlefield in an attempt to cover up his sin (2 Samuel 11:14-15).
But wait… there’s more!
Bathsheba gave birth to a son who died as a result of David’s sin (2 Samuel 12:14). You and I could go back and forth, trying to determine God’s mercy or His wrath over that verse all day long, but the real truth is that our sin affects people around us, not just ourselves.
If we would consider that truth more frequently, maybe self-indulgence wouldn’t be such a stumbling block.
Sin affects those around us. Consider that when you’re tempted with self-indulgence.
Restoration
I would make a grave mistake if I left the story of David unfinished.
Here’s the deeper truth of the account of David: God never leaves us in a place of condemnation without offering restoration.
David’s life story continued to spiral out of control. You can read all about just how bad it got in 2 Samuel chapters 11 to 21. You’ll find suspense, intrigue, murder, rape, and even espionage.
But don’t miss the deliverance in chapter 22:
And David spoke to the Lord the words of this song on the day when the Lord delivered him from the hand of all his enemies, and from the hand of Saul.
2 Samuel 22:1
The point of conviction by the Holy Spirit isn’t punishment, His objective is restoration.
The Prescription for Lust
Hiding the sin of lust only destroys us from the inside. And it will impact the people around us. The only way to defeat this evil is to yield to God.
- Prayer. And more prayer. Confess your struggles to God and lean on Him. You’re not defeating this one alone.
- Know your enemy. This is spiritual warfare and you’re in it whether you think so or not. So you need to know what triggers your sin and how to stand against it, or when to flee.
- Stop hiding your sin and get some accountability in place. Use internet filters by Covenant Eyes (affiliate link). I’ve arranged an agreement with them and if you use that link, you’ll get a free month of service when you sign up. I did mention you can’t do this alone, right?
- Get counseling. Start with your pastor or someone you trust. If you don’t have either one of those, contact me privately. I’m here for you and I’ll either help you find someone, or I’ll walk with you myself.
- Stay in the Word. Read Psalms. No seriously, read the Psalms, don’t gloss over them and check it off of your list. Live in them for 30 days.
- Once you’ve confessed your sin to God, forgive yourself. If the God of the universe has forgiven your sin, don’t buy into the lie that it’s shame is available for regurgitation. It’s finished, move on.
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So I met a beautiful women 19 yrs younger fitness model. She came from money. Her mother taught her that money and things are more important than love. Well my girlfriend didn’t have any money, I own my own business and do well. I personally don’t think this girl would’ve went on a date with me if she did not know that. I figured out early at her mothers sexualized everything because I took them all out to dinner and at the end of the dinner her mother speaks out and says “now you need to go home and take care of your man “. Always wanted the expensive purses shoes even though she was a bartender. She put demands on me but she always dressed provocatively of course with her mothers approval. In the last year a few things happened or I did break up with her but most recently, I found out she cheated on me. I personally never liked her personality. She was not a good person. She was mean she was always very very selfish. She cannot even keep your lies straight during our relationship. Her and her sister always competed for material things. I broke up with her. She’s now with a guy who is married who also owns a business but is closer to her age. He has two children. Like I said, she’s not a good person. Even though I’m the one that broke up with her and I believe do you believe it was divine intervention that I caught her because I believe God did not want me getting married to her, i’m still having a difficult time moving on. I believe it’s because of lust. That was the only thing I enjoyed with her. I didn’t really even enjoy her company because she was just cold and selfish. When I caught her, even her mother yelled at her for not deleting all of the incriminating messages. I believe she lost it over money and material things and uses sex for that. Her sister is the same way and he has slept with a married men. They are twins. Go figure. They are very competitive. I am seeking deliverance from last because I told myself a few years ago that I could never marry somebody who is like this and the only reason I kept her around was for the sex. It’s only been a week and I don’t know why am struggling because that guy did me a favor.
Wow Andrew, that’s quite a lot going on. Well, I can’t really throw my support behind God divinely intervening on your behalf while you were engaged in a sinful relationship. Her actions and behavior aside, you have to own your own stuff here. You don’t get a pass because by your own admission, you were engaged in a sinful relationship where your motivating factor was sex.
To put this in context, sex is a gift from God between 2 heterosexual people consisting of a biological male and a biological female who are in a monogamous marital relationship. Any sexual expression outside of this is sexual sin. Period.
From what little I may conclude by what you’ve shared, it sounds like an unhealthy relationship for both of you, where both made unhealthy choices. It seems good to me that you ended the relationship, and of course moving past the damage will be difficult.
If it’s truly deliverance that you seek and you want to move past the struggle, my advice is to lay everything aside and repent. There is freedom from sin in Christ when you turn to him with your mess and repent.
Thank you so much for the article!
I’ve repented to Christ about my sin, told some of my friends about it for accountability, but I still find myself being tempted over and over again.
I find my trigger to be reading romance novels, so I stopped reading them. Unfortunately I don’t know how to deal with this trigger since romance is in everything (social media, movies, etc.). It does not seem to be realistic to cut everything romance-related from my life, so what is another way to deal with it rather than avoiding triggers?