Saint Valentine’s Day is a time when chocolates will be bought, and lots of them. And roses, jewelry, balloons and of course enormous cards and huge teddy bears. Social media is about to run wild over the coming days. You’re about to be inundated with posts gone viral of who’s made the biggest expression of love, and of the joy brought on by these surprising gifts.
I know, the intent is to take an opportunity to display love and affection for someone. Sadly though, so much of today’s holiday is all about expectations set by society to prove one’s love. And there’s the “one-upping” everyone else thrown in there, too.
In today’s world, Saint Valentine’s Day has become a mainstay of consumerism, and of the painful acknowledgement of those who call it “single awareness day.”
So where did all of this romance and over the top consumption of impressing mates come from?What's the real story behind Valentines Day?Click To Tweet
Not much is known about the man we know as Saint Valentine that can be verified by historical records. We have countless churches and cathedrals named after him, and of course a major holiday. We know that retailers, chocolatiers, florists and jewelers love him. But not in the same way Valentine showed his love.
We do know that Valentine has been associated with a chivalrous and noble type of love since somewhere between the 11th and 13th centuries. There are records of a martyred bishop named Valentinius. It’s this Saint that we recognize when we celebrate Saint Valentine’s Day.
Valentinius was a bishop and a physician during a time in the Roman Empire, when under Emperor Claudius II, the church faced heavy persecution. Claudius likely practiced Roman Paganism and was said to have consulted the ancient Sibylline Books before waging battles.
We do know that in the Roman Empire under Claudius II where marriage is concerned, polygamy and divorce were widely accepted and Christian marriage was punishable by death.
Emperor Claudius, believing soldiers fought better unmarried rather than married, outlawed the institute of marriage in the younger age groups that soldiers would have belonged to.
Contrary to the edicts of the Emperor and the society that he lived in, Valentine was a man who believed in the sacred union of marriage between one man and one woman for life, and these ideas were gaining popularity in his day.
Valentine recognized that people were attracted to the ideas of marriage within the church and he greatly encouraged it. He went so far as to perform illegal and secret marriage ceremonies for which he was eventually caught, imprisoned and tortured.Saint Valentine lived out his faith with an unconditional, Christ-like love.Click To Tweet
The Sacrifice of Saint Valentine
One of the legends told about Valentine during the time of his imprisonment was that a Roman official named Asterius, who had a blind daughter, was to judge him for opposing Claudius’ edict against the church and marriage.
The story goes that Valentine prayed so fervently that she was healed of her blindness and Asterius became a Christian.
The year is uncertain, being somewhere between 269 and 273 A.D., but it was on February 14 on the Roman calendar when Valentine was finally sentenced to a three-tiered execution that included severe beatings, stoning and finally beheading.
Consider the sacrifice of Saint Valentine over your candlelight dinner: it is said that his final words were to the daughter of Asterius, which he signed, “from your Valentine.”
-Father Frank O’Gara, Whitefriars Street Church, Dublin, Ireland
What it Means Today
So it is, while people around the world from virtually every nation will celebrate with over the top posts on social media streams that will run viral, countless dollars spent on impressing significant others and expressions of love, and commitments too numerous to name, at the root of our Saint Valentines Day festivities is a man named Valentinius, who, standing for his belief in the institute of marriage, paid the ultimate price for his convictions with his life.
And, for the sake of unconditional, Christ-like love, Saint Valentine lived out his own faith by standing firm in the shadow of the cross, setting for all of mankind an example of unconditional, steadfast love.