This post last updated on November 13th, 2021
And that’s a very, very powerful truth to understand.
Check out this video, that I did not create, but found on YouTube called “Your Identity in Christ: Who am I?”
By the way, if you know who made it let me know so I can give them proper credit.
What Is Self Esteem?
Self esteem is confidence in your own worth or abilities. Some call it “self respect.”
If your self esteem is unreasonably low, you have confidence issues that might come across as an unwillingness to attempt new things or to engage with people.
Too high, and you’re likely to struggle with pride issues or will dangerously have more faith in yourself than you should (Proverbs 3:5-7, Romans 12:3).
So what’s a healthy self esteem look like? I imagine it’s a balance between the 2 examples, but I get the feeling we all pretty much have a tendency to lean to either too much or not enough self esteem.
This is why it’s so important to understand your own individual identity in Christ.
And that’s why I’m not going to dive into the psychology behind self esteem. The spiritual side of it has far more impact, anyway.
Biblical Self-Esteem: Not Too Much, Not Too Little
Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves.Romans 12:3
That’s a substantial warning Paul wrote. He’s essentially saying that we shouldn’t over estimate ourselves. It’s a stern warning against pride.
I sit in a lot of meetings with all kinds of churches. During one of those meetings, some church leaders were over estimating a specific level of Biblical education. They were disproportionately elevating training over my ability and calling to ministry.
So how did I respond? I actually found myself, later to my own regret, boasting about the degree I held and the one I was still chasing.
Of course it’s good to acknowledge your accomplishments. Sometimes you need to establish credibility. But in that meeting, I allowed myself to be judged by what I had done rather than by my faith, calling, and character in Christ.
That’s the warning Paul gave us in Romans 12.
Biblically, self esteem is a “sober evaluation” of yourself and who you are in Christ.
That means you don’t brag about your achievements or the things you have. It also means you don’t under estimate and belittle yourself.
After all, what really matters most to genuinely knowing who you are is understanding that it was the Son of God who has paid the price to redeem you.
Your Identity in Christ
I’m going to say it a second time.
Your identity in Christ is everything. To understand and comprehend the truth of who you are in God is powerful and that could bring a real breakthrough to your spiritual life.
So then, who are you in Christ?
1. You are loved:
God loves you. Despite our being unworthy of His love (Romans 3:23) and our falling short (Romans 3:10-11), and besides what we should have coming our way (Romans 6:23), He loves you.
He loves you because of His love for you, and not because of anything you can do, show, give, or become. I know that can be disturbingly difficult to fully grasp. But God’s incomparable, priceless love for you is absolutely true. “Christ died for us while we were still sinners. This demonstrates God’s love for us” (Romans 5:8).
But there’s just got to be something we can do to get God’s attention, to win over His favor, right?
Actually, yes, but really no: all you can do is surrender. “So then, “Whoever calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (Romans 10:13).
Understand who you are in God. You’re so valuable to Him that He doesn’t want anything from you in exchange for His unending love.
10 Encouraging Bible Verses on New Life!
2. You are valuable:
Sometimes people say they would lay down their life for a loved one. Some people have done just that, dying as heroes.
But God has gone even further. He willingly died for us while we were against Him (Romans 5:8).
And it was an inconceivable price He paid for you: “for God bought you with a high price” (1 Corinthians 6:20).
3. You are accepted:
Accepted by God means declared innocent. Another way to say that is justified.
In fact, in the original translation of the verse I’m about to share with you, the word justified was dikaioō (dik-ah-yo’-o).
The definition for that Greek word is “to render righteous.”
Yet we know that a person is not justified by works of the law but through faith in Jesus Christ, so we also have believed in Christ Jesus, in order to be justified by faith in Christ and not by works of the law, because by works of the law no one will be justified.Galatians 2:16
When you’re surrendered to Christ and have repented of your sins, you’ve been so completely separated from them, it’s as if they never happened (Check out John 1:29).
And in case that’s not enough for you, look at John 1:12. “However, he gave the right to become God’s children to everyone who believed in him.”
You are accepted.
4. You are precious:
Because God is so intimately familiar with who you are, and because you are His own design, you are precious to Him.
How amazing is that? The God who created everything that you can see and everything you can’t see is personally concerned with you:
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand-Psalm 139:13-18
when I awake, I am still with you.
Who You Really Are
I sincerely want you to take this truth home with you. So I’m going to recap.
If you follow Jesus, your identity in Christ supersedes everything else you may think about yourself. Good or bad.
You’ve been set apart for a greater purpose.
So remember these points and put these verses where you’ll use them. You are:
- Loved (Romans 5:8)
- Valuable (1 Corinthians 6:20)
- Accepted (John 1:12; Galatians 2:16)
- Precious (Psalm 139:13-18)
Robin E. Mason
Gene, this is so powerful.
Thank you, Robin, that’s really encouraging to hear! I’ve been wanting to do this post for a long time.
Gene, this is a superb post.
“He loves you because of His love for you, and not because of anything you can do, show, give, or become.”
I had this exact same thought this morning when I was looking after my kid.
He’s still too young to understand me, but I was thinking to myself – I love him because he is my son. And I will always love him, no matter what. It’s unconditional love.
And that’s something I never fully experienced before becoming a Dad.
Sure, I feel the same way about my amazing wife and family (!) but yet, it’s different when it comes to your own son.
Which is why knowing that God loves us unconditionally, as his own children, is the most encouraging thing of all.
Daniel, thank you for that beautiful and perfect illustration!
We fathers have such a critical job in communicating and showing the love of God to our children. Even–no, make that especially when they disappoint us.
I’m thankful your son has that in his Dad!
How old is he, btw?
How beautiful, Gene! I too often forget who I am in God’s eyes and define myself by what others think of me. Every time that results in me thinking that I’m a failure.
I love that I am Loved, Valuable, Respected, and Precious!
Hi Sherry! I’m quite a bit like you in that regard and also tend to define myself by what others think. That’s exactly how I fell into a trap in that church meeting and allowed myself to be judged on my education.
I’m so glad you stopped by to see this post, and good to hear from you again!
Mike Omoasegun - BU
Gene, I visited your site and I was amazing for this glorious Kingdom work you are doing. May God continue to empower you to do more for Him in Jesus name.
Seeing you with this great work is an evidence of practising what you have learned through BU.
God be with you.
Hello Professor, and welcome! I’m greatly encouraged by your words and have been thankful for your guidance.
Thank you for taking a moment to leave a comment, and God Bless you in all of your Kingdom building work!
Thanks for this post.
Thank you, Liesel, I’m glad you enjoyed it! Blessings to you as well!!
The video ous by Cleon Alleyne
Gene S. Whitehead
Very cool, thank you Mary!! 🙂
Great stuff Gene! Definitely stirred the brain cells. Praying for positive actions from Sweden. As do we, they also need to hear things like this.
Gene S. Whitehead
Thank you, Mike! Yeah I agree…I need regular reminders of these things and I know we’re not alone. Wherever you and I may be found, let it be hope we share!